My granddaughter called me last night. I've been waiting for this call. This is the granddaughter mentioned in a previous post. The one who is grounded for an eternity (I think she mentioned 18 more days). She's going to miss the "Sadies" dance, which is something she's been looking forward to for months.
I listened to her go on and on about how miserable she is...how her mom is mean...how she KNOWS what she did was wrong...how she has learned her lesson.
I let her get it all out and then I said "my turn"...
1. Your mother loves you and she is not being mean.
2. This dance is really a very insignificant event in your life no matter how hard that is for you to believe at this time.
3. Just because you're saying all the right things doesn't mean you learned anything. It just means you're smart, and you're trying desperately to manipulate the situation to benefit you. (I repeated #2)
4. Your life is not over! (Again, I repeated #2)
I then asked her why she was feeling so miserable...she said because she's grounded...cut off from her world, her friends, (and here it is)...her Mom!
This is what I had been waiting for!
She went on to tell me how she considers her Mom her best friend, and she misses her. Once again, I reminded her that her mother loves her and was disappointed and hurt by her actions and she was grounded out of love.
Long story short I basically told her she had to "buck up" and deal with her punishment, earn her mother's trust back, and remember #1-4. I don't know if she got it or not...I can only hope!
I sure do miss my girls!